There comes a time in everyone’s life when you come to regret the choices you have
made—the words you have spoken, the actions you have taken, and most importantly, the
people you have hurt. The results of one trifling remark can cause your whole world to crumble
around you, throwing you into a state of contrition: there is nothing more dismal and
heart-wrenching than hurting the ones you love.
That constant feeling of regret looms over you day and night. Like menacing storm clouds
blocking the sun, this regret blocks the joy from your life, leaving you constantly in the dark.
What chisels away the heart the most, however, is the fact that ties between you and your loved
one have been severed, and it was you who severed them.
Last year, I treated someone very close to me with utmost selfishness. My actions were
appalling, and my words were malicious; our beautiful relationship ended because of the
choices I made. After all communication was cut off, I quickly sunk into a state of despair. The
fact that the person who meant the world to me was no longer a part of my life hit me full force.
And if that wasn’t harrowing enough, I was struck with the realisation that it was all done by my
It was my fault. It was because of my actions, my words, my selfishness.
These thoughts swirled through my head in a constant, never-ending maelstrom of anguish.
Echos of the amazing memories we made and the great times that we shared haunted me day
and night. I lived life in a daze. Nothing made me happy anymore. What I felt at the time, I’m not
sure I can even describe in words—it would just be taking a black pen and furiously scribbling
all over the page. I just saw myself as a horrible person who ruined her own life because of her
One night, I was feeling more melancholy than usual. It had been a long time since the
argument, and I was home alone sitting in my room just reflecting over the past. These words
came to me:
I pick up this pen;
I open my heart.
All the things that could have been,
all the things that won’t be,
are turned into hope
with a pen and a heart.
Turn your hopes into words,
and with those words,
all the could be’s and won’t be’s
are read and understood.
Forgiveness is a blessing
made true by true words,
by a person with courage,
a pen, and a heart.
After finishing it, I took a step back and soaked it in. That’s when realisation smacked me across
This whole time that I’ve been living in complete misery was also my own fault. Not because of
what I did, but because of what I didn’t do. I was so caught up in what happened—automatically
deeming myself a terrible person and throwing myself in a state of despair—that I forgot the
power of a sincere apology.
That night, I sat myself down and deeply thought about what happened. Then, I poured my
heart into the letter that I wrote. I shed some tears, smiled a little, and sincerely apologized for
all my poor choices. I hit send and hoped against hope that maybe—just maybe—I would be
A few days later was my birthday. After not hearing from him for well over a month, I was quite
overjoyed when I got a “Happy Birthday!” from them. It truly was the best birthday present I ever
received. Later that day, we talked things out and my apology was accepted. Things weren’t
forgotten, but they were forgiven. From that day on, we became closer than ever and back to
making beautiful memories.
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has those times where regret over past choices fills their
days with sorrow and pain—it’s just an inevitable part of life. Just because it’s a part of life,
however, doesn't mean it has to be our lives. It may seem that regret has taken full control, but
that’s not the case at all: we have the power to fight back. It takes courage to take responsibility
for our actions, but it’s worth stepping out of our comfort zones to fight for what we truly love.
Maybe our loved ones never wanted things to be like this. We may think they don’t love us
anymore after all that has happened, but that’s not the case at all. They could just be hurt and
surprised at all that has transpired. Maybe they’d also like for things to go back to the way there
were; however, it is our responsibility to make that happen.
No matter how horrific the words, or how selfish the actions, a sincere apology could go a long
way in mending the link between two people. It takes a little courage to admit to being wrong,
but if we truly open our hearts, we can at least take the first steps in righting our wrongs.