I used to fear that one day life would be boring, like “oh my gosh, why aren’t I dead yet?” boring. I was afraid I’d become one of those candles that burned out too soon despite having so much life left to live, and I was afraid I'd live the same life over and over again every single day. I know what people say: routine is good. It’s healthy to sleep and wake at the same time, to eat at the same time, even to poop at the same time. It’s normal to do things a certain way and get used to it. That’s life, and I get it.
Still, I like to rebel against my “normal” at least once every day to keep my life interesting. While my tiny acts of rebellion may seem inadequate and insignificant, you might be surprised of the wonders that having a good mindset and attitude can do for us when it comes to confronting monotony. As I like to say, lifelessness is not an excuse when you’re alive.
So without further ado, here are the five things that everyone should do every day to keep the candle burning:
1. TALK TO YOURSELF
While this is second nature to me, I realize some people are so busy living their lives that they overlook the importance of taking time to make sense of what they’re living. If this is you, please, talk to yourself. Check in with yourself to see how you're doing, and listen to what you have to say. It’s therapeutic and unbelievably meaningful. More than that, it can keep you from losing track of yourself and your life.
I LOVE to talk to myself. When the life around me dies down, it reassures me to know that I'll still have my thoughts to keep me company. Even when I’m alone with no one close by to verbally vomit all over, I'm never really lonely. So talk to yourself, and don't be surprised when it gives your day a little stamp of significance. Because it will.
2. PICK A FAVORITE MOMENT EACH DAY
A lot of us have an all time favorite memory or moment that kind of, sort of happened like 10 years ago, but some of us haven't come to terms with the fact that IT'S NEVER COMING BACK. That's a problem. Instead, we should adopt the mindset that every day could be one of the best days of our lives (because it's kind of the only day we've got).
So I say we allow ourselves to have more than one favorite memory. I say we have a favorite memory every single day and enjoy the heck out of it. Every day, discover a new high, a new way to have fun, a new plot twist. Try a little harder to appreciate the day that you’re living and give it a chance to make some new headlines in your life.
3. ACT REALLY SILLY
Do you ever just stop what you’re doing to do the silliest, most obnoxious thing you can think of? If not, you’re missing out! I know it sounds elementary, but don't you wonder why children seem so happy all the time? It’s because they can make themselves laugh! They’ll mimic weird dolphin noises, make faces at themselves in the mirror, or make fart sounds with their mouths. You might feel the urge to roll your eyes at this, but don’t. Life's no fun if you're always so serious. It becomes a chore and a burden, so let loose and act out! Be a six-year-old! Do something silly and flap your wings like that chicken from the chicken dance.
Here, I’ll even include the video:
Be weird, be silly, and be happy. Laugh for no reason, dance like a fool, and sing at the top of your lungs. I do most of these things every day, and I’m happy as can be.
Have something to get excited about. I know I've said to enjoy the moment and to appreciate each day, but there's nothing wrong with looking forward to something at the same time. Whether it's in the near or distant future, whether it's an insignificant or important thing, anticipate. And if you can help it, try to keep your expectations to a minimum. Just imagine and let yourself get excited. Usually, I have something to look forward to every week. Whether it's getting to relax and do nothing on a Saturday or planning my summer vacation, I clap my hands and squeal "Yay me!" like London Tipton because it's fun to be an excitable person.
Whatever you do, don’t be an Eeyore (especially if you can help it)! He’s got the whole “I hate life” thing so down pat that I can’t even watch him without wanting to run myself into a wall.
5. REBEL AGAINST YOUR "NORMAL"
In other words, do something to make your day unique every day. Even if it’s a small act, it can make a huge difference, and it does matter. Switch things up. Purposely mess with your routine. Keep yourself away from "the usual" and from getting used to things being a certain way. I think the most important aspect of this is to not try so hard to know what to expect. While it may seem easier and more appealing, predictability is not your friend. In fact, it's so colorless that it will make a rainbow go bland, and that's BORING.
While it’s great to have some level of stability in your day to day (because some people don’t have enough as it is), a healthy amount of normalcy is more than enough. Too much is just unbearable (at least to me). It could cause us to get too used to our lives, to begin to do things mindlessly, and to fall into lulling patterns that are difficult to break. It has the potential to set us on the quickest path to monotony, and if we’re not careful, monotony somehow always leads to misery. DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN.
That said, my advice won’t work for everyone because some people like to be in control of as much as they can in their lives. They find doing the same thing at the same time to be comforting, and that’s totally fine. To each their own.
I'll leave you with this: the farther down the road we travel, the more we forget life for what it is and remember life for how we've lived it. Give yourself a chance to fight for your "happy." I believe in you.