Dear inCon #1

Dear inCon,

I have been struggling a little bit these past few months. School has gotten to be really stressful, and I am feeling tired all the time. I don't have enough time for anything anymore. I used to love to read books, and I read so many, but I haven't read a full book voluntarily since summer. I don't get to hang out with my friends anymore, and I am starting to feel us becoming more separate. I love them so much, but I always see my friend group together having fun, and I'm not a part of that. I don't want us to grow apart, but I know I have to focus on school. What should I do to keep my friend group together without me having to sacrifice my grades for it? Thanks!

- Hayley Alby


Dear Hayley,

Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. We really do care and would like to help. To answer your question, the first thing we'd recommend is for you to remember that everything you do should mean something to you. We agree that your grades are important. They've essentially (albeit unfortunately) become the most integral aspect of school. However, your friends are important too. Your grades might not matter in ten years, but your friendships might last an entire lifetime. If you'd like to keep your grades and your friends, then we suggest that you consider this: life is about balance. Give yourself the chance to prioritize one over the other. If, for example, you're prepping for an important exam, then maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea to reschedule your friends. But if you've got a couple pages of homework that don't have to be done to perfection, get them done and step out of the house for a couple hours to meet with your friends. 

And if neither option works for you, then maybe you could try doing both at once: invite your friends over for a study session and study together. Chances are they've got homework too.

Regardless of what you decide, please take it easy. Try to do something you love every day in addition to all the tasks you're obligated to do. If you manage your time well, you'll manage your life well.

We hope that by reading this, you've found at least a little bit of what you're looking for.  

Please don't hesitate to reach out to us!

- Your friends at inCon